IF YOU THINK A CHILD HAS BEEN ABUSED
Important Messages to Give Child Victims
I believe you and what you are telling me.
- You did the right thing by telling me.
- It wasn't your fault. It's never your fault.
- I want you to be safe. You deserve to be safe.
- It's your body and you have the right to say "no" if anyone wants to touch you (or have you touch them) in a way or place that makes you feel uncomfortable.
- Always trust your feelings. If you feel uncomfortable or confused, that's enough.
- Sexual abuse has happened to many other children; you're not alone.
- I'm going to get some help for you and the other person. I will need to call someone to let that person know you need help.
Please Remember To...
- Move to a location with as much privacy as possible. Stand or sit next to the child while talking. Help make the child feel as comfortable as possible.
- Listen carefully to what the child is saying. Communicate to the child that you are listening by using good eye contact, nodding your head, making a gentle comment, etc.
- Keep your comments short and meaningful. Don't interrupt the child or give long, involved explanations or comments. Use language that is at the child's level of understanding.
- Give honest information and answers. If you don't know the answer to a question, say so and indicate you'll try to find the answer.
- Report the suspected abuse any time day or night to the Texas Child Abuse Hotline 1-800-252-5400. If nothing is done, other children may be at risk too.
- Find a specialized agency, organization, or individual therapist to provide support for the child.
- Do not blame yourself. Abuse is a fact in our society. Many abusers find employment that brings them into contact with children. We can do a lot to prevent abuse and help our children stay safe, but community and national consciousness is needed before we can stop abuse in our society.
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Remember Some Don'ts...
- Don't get visibly upset, act shocked or appalled, or show anger towards a family member or the abuser. Do remember to convey your support for the child.
- Don't make promises to the child; you might not be able to keep them later.
- Don't ask "why" questions or pressure the child to talk.
- Never tell the child you'll keep a secret, even if the child suggests he won't tell you the story unless you pledge secrecy.
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